How to Be an Adult in Relationships by David Richo
The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

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"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this book, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships—one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life:

   1.  Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships.
   2.  Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are.
   3.  Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament.
   4.  Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways.
   5.  Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control.


When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts—what Richo calls the five A's—form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.
 

About David Richo

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David Richo, PhD, is a psychotherapist, teacher, writer, and workshop leader whose work emphasizes the benefits of mindfulness and loving-kindness in personal growth and emotional well-being. He is the author of numerous books, including How to Be an Adult in Relationships and The Five Things We Cannot Change. He lives in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, California.
 
Published June 18, 2002 by Shambhala. 272 pages
Genres: Health, Fitness & Dieting, Self Help, Romance, Parenting & Relationships, Religion & Spirituality. Non-fiction

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Approaching the study of relationships from a psychotherapist's perspective is How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving. Teacher and writer David Richo gives practical a

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Approaching the study of relationships from a psychotherapist's perspective is How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving.

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The book is organized in an almost chronological sense, starting with the reader’s childhood, moving to the first relationships, addressing conflict and commitment, and also devoting a chapter to the end of relationships.

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Reviews Philosophy About Our Affiliates Books & Audios Recently Reviewed "If we truly know ourselves, nothing else anyone does is ever strange or unforgivable," writes David Richo, a counselor, teacher, and writer in Santa Barbara, California, wh...

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