Miss America By Day by Marilyn Van Derbur
Lessons Learned from Ultimate Betrayals and Unconditional Love

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Miss America By Day won a 1st place in the prestigious Writer’s Digest National book competition.

A judge wrote: Seldom as a judge have I wanted to read the entire book but I devoured every word of this riveting story…Told with stark honesty, determination and vivid details…she tells her story with thoroughness and immediacy…

Jane Fonda wrote: “Your book has touched me to my core, blown me away, impressed me deeply…it’s very important.

“This is the most important book I have read on healing, conquering shame, and the question of forgiveness.” Shelli Hill Snyder, survivor, Davie, FL

“I learned more from you in your 20 minute talk than I have learned in the last decade.” Dr. Richard Krugman, Dean of the Univ. of Colo. School of Medicine

“Reading Miss America had a profound impact on me.” Mary Krane, M.S.W. University of Denver Graduate School of Social Work

“This is the finest book ever written on this subject.” Eve Ensler, internationally known playwright and performer.

“This book had such a profound impact on me, I flew from South Carolina to Colorado to thank Marilyn personally.” Cindy Tew, founder of Darkness to Light.

In this long-awaited book, Van Derbur, a former Miss America, tells the story of how she was sexually violated by her father from age 5 to age 18. She was 53 years old before she was able to speak the words in public: "I am an incest survivor." She opened the door for tens of thousands of sexual abuse survivors to speak the words, many for the first time, within their own families and communities.

Van Derbur describes in detail what specific "work" she did on her successful journey from victim to survivor. Using her story as the scaffolding, she shares knowledge and insights she has gained after talking personally with adult survivors in 225 cities in which she has spoken. With her extensive research on the long-term impact of trauma and her belief that prevention is the best weapon for keeping our children safe, Van Derbur urges parents to talk to children, as young as five. Suggesting specific words, she helps set the stage for conversations that can evolve into positive continuous dialogues.

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Published March 12, 2011 by Marilyn Van Derbur, www.MissAmericaByDay.com. 561 pages
Genres: Health, Fitness & Dieting, Self Help, Parenting & Relationships, Biographies & Memoirs, Education & Reference. Non-fiction

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