Popular by Mitch Prinstein
The Power of Likability in a Status-Obsessed World

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...the author suggests that the better kind of popularity is not necessarily inborn—i.e., people can change their own luck by cultivating these and other qualities. Though repetitive, an eye-opening look at the ways of the world—at least the world as the cool kids know it.
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A leading psychologist examines how our popularity affects our success, our relationships, and our happiness—and why we don’t always want to be the most popular

No matter how old you are, there’s a good chance that the word “popular” immediately transports you back to your teenage years. Most of us can easily recall the adolescent social cliques, the high school pecking order, and which of our peers stood out as the most or the least popular teens we knew. Even as adults we all still remember exactly where we stood in the high school social hierarchy, and the powerful emotions associated with our status persist decades later. This may be for good reason.

Popular examines why popularity plays such a key role in our development and, ultimately, how it still influences our happiness and success today. In many ways—some even beyond our conscious awareness—those old dynamics of our youth continue to play out in every business meeting, every social gathering, in our personal relationships, and even how we raise our children. Our popularity even affects our DNA, our health, and our mortality in fascinating ways we never previously realized. More than childhood intelligence, family background, or prior psychological issues, research indicates that it’s how popular we were in our early years that predicts how successful and how happy we grow up to be.

But it’s not always the conventionally popular people who fare the best, for the simple reason that there is more than one type of popularity—and many of us still long for the wrong one. As children, we strive to be likable, which can offer real benefits not only on the playground but throughout our lives. In adolescence, though, a new form of popularity emerges, and we suddenly begin to care about status, power, influence, and notoriety—research indicates that this type of popularity hurts us more than we realize.

Realistically, we can’t ignore our natural human social impulses to be included and well-regarded by others, but we can learn how to manage those impulses in beneficial and gratifying ways. Popular relies on the latest research in psychology and neuroscience to help us make the wisest choices for ourselves and for our children, so we may all pursue more meaningful, satisfying, and rewarding relationships.
 

About Mitch Prinstein

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Mitch Prinstein is the John Van Seters Distinguished Professor of Psychology and the Director of Clinical Psychology at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. He began his faculty career as the Director of Clinical Training at Yale University, and his Peer Relations Lab there and UNC have been conducting research on popularity and peer relations for almost 20 years, work that has been funded by the National Institute of Mental Health, the National Institute of Child and Human Development, and several private foundations. He and his research have been featured in The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, National Public Radio, LA Times, CNN, US News and World Report, Time Magazine, New York Magazine, Newsweek, Reuters, Family Circle, Real Simple, and elsewhere.
Author Residence: Chapel Hill, NC
 
Published June 6, 2017 by Viking. 282 pages
Genres: Health, Fitness & Dieting, Self Help, Parenting & Relationships, Political & Social Sciences, Professional & Technical, Science & Math. Non-fiction
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...the author suggests that the better kind of popularity is not necessarily inborn—i.e., people can change their own luck by cultivating these and other qualities. Though repetitive, an eye-opening look at the ways of the world—at least the world as the cool kids know it.

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