Put Yourself in Their Shoes by Barbara Meltz
Understanding How Your Children See the World

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Wouldn't parenting be easier if you could see into the mind of your child?

Learn to hear what your child can't or won't tell you--and

Understand Behavior
Build Values
Nurture Closeness
Solve Problems

In her popular Boston Globe column "Child Caring," Barbara Meltz has been writing about real-life parenting issues for more than a decade.  She has found that instead of divorce or moving--the situations parents think of as stressful--children's concerns are often linked to commonplace events such as sleepovers or the first day of school.

In this wise, compassionate book, Meltz offers parents a unique window into their child's inner life.  She includes candid, illuminating observations from kids themselves and offers advice on what to ask, listen for, or observe to decode puzzling behavior. . . how to get a child to talk about his or her problems. . . and how to find the best way to solve conflicts.  By focusing on developmental trouble spots, not age, her approach is as helpful to the parents of a two-year-old as to those of a twelve-year-old.  From keeping secrets to going to camp to larger issues, such as stealing or death in the family, Put Yourself in Their Shoes offers a way to see inside a child's world--and help to make it safe and strong.

From the Trade Paperback edition.

About Barbara Meltz

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Barbara Meltz's "Child Caring" has been one of the best-read columns at The Boston Globe since she began writing it more than a decade ago.  She lives outside Boston with her husband, son, and dog.  This is her first book.From the Trade Paperback edition.
Published April 27, 2011 by Dell. 432 pages
Genres: Health, Fitness & Dieting, Parenting & Relationships, Crafts, Hobbies & Home, Professional & Technical. Non-fiction

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Yes, it's a wake up call to the parent that the kid needs some help coping, but I don't see the problem with locking down a kid who would act out in such a dangerous manner.

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We would like to start setting a time limit on dinner and if she hasn't finished her meal in that time, we will take it away from her and that's the end of dinner.

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Barbara's articles about picky eaters point out the food choices and the behaviors.

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Didn't she echo HRClinton in saying that it takes a village to raise a child?) What a truly inspirational, heroic figure Elizabeth would be if she could focus on Frances as just the child she is, extend her love as simply a child.

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There's been lots of research on this but I'm speaking more as a parent of only one child and, I agree, in a one-child family, parents can unwittingly put too much pressure on a child to succeed.

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