The Four Genders Handbook by Sam Small
How to Discover Yourself, Find an Amazing Partner and Keep Both (Volume 1)

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This book looks at personal relationships in a fundamentally new way. It identifies two primal energies that have fuelled the human attraction process since the beginning of time. All men and all women have one of these two energies. Therefore, four distinct genders (or energy types) exist in the world and not just two. "The Four Genders Handbook" explores the astonishing influence of these natural energies and how it affects us all. The two energies are the "dominant instigator type" and the "submissive facilitator type". Without these quite different and complimentary energies human life would cease to exist. (1) The male submissive facilitator type (short form – ‘submissive man’) - he has natural “talents” of Action and Service. (2) The female dominant instigator type (short form – ‘dominant woman’) - she has natural “talents” of Nurture and Decision. The two energy types of (1) and (2) are very attracted to each other. (3) The female submissive facilitator type (short form – ‘submissive woman’) - she has natural “talents” of Nurture and Service. (4) The male dominant instigator type (short form – ‘dominant man’) - he has natural “talents” of Action and Decision. The two energy types of (3) and (4) are very attracted to each other. Both pairings have all four talents working together. This is the essence of human attraction. A vital tenet of the whole Four Genders concept is that while each energy type is very different, they are of equal value. In fact, any relationship, any family, any community, any country, will dangerously dysfunction if the Four Genders balance is not maintained. All Four Genders are necessary; all Four Genders must work together to bring the four talents together. Knowledge of all Four Genders and their associated “Special Talents” is vital when embarking on a search for a partner. For any relationship to work, each partner must be fully aware of their own energy type; to be "type aware". This is essential to properly fulfil your own relationship responsibilities and strengths as well as that of your partner. It is also a true pathway to fun and adventure with the one you love. The book explains all this clearly and simply. “The Four Genders Handbook” is in five parts. Part 1 of the book (“Discovery”) presents all the tools required to discover one’s own true energy type. For some this might be quite easy and natural. For others it is more problematic. For instance, many men balk at the label “submissive”. They mistakenly associate this label with weakness and subservience. This is a dangerous misunderstanding of the terms used in the book. ‘Submissive male’ refers to the amazing men with the unique talent combination of Service and Action. The term ‘submissive’ remains as a formidable reminder that they must listen to the Nurture and especially to the Decision talents of their dominant female partners. When these objections have been satisfied, the “Discovery Section” of the book has done its job. The following four sections of the book concentrate on each of the Four Genders. They give a detailed profile of the inner, fundamental behaviours of each energy type and their relationship with individuals and groups. There are sections on the perfect attitude for your first date with your “target type”; identifying your parents’ energy types and how that has affected your personal relationships; your children’s energy types and how to better manage them; maintaining a happy marriage and many other “relationship tools” that make dreadful emotional mistakes far less likely. “The Four Genders Handbook” will help you predict the general tone of all relationships you seek to build. It will enable you to better choose a lifelong partner and how to bring out the best in you and in them. It will make sense of your work related relationships and actually create harmony where conflict once tormented your day.

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Published January 28, 2012 by CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform. 321 pages
Genres: Self Help, Parenting & Relationships, Health, Fitness & Dieting. Non-fiction

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