What You Really Really Want by Jaclyn Friedman
The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety

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In this empowering, accessible guide, Jaclyn Friedman—co-editor of Yes Means Yes—gives young women the tools to decipher the modern world’s confusing, hypersexualized, sometimes dangerous landscape so they can define their own sexual identity. Friedman decries the hypocrisy and mixed messages of our culture (we’re failures if we don’t act sexy, but we’re sluts if we actually pursue sex; we need to be protected from rapists lurking in bushes, but deserve “whatever we get” if we have a drink at a party and wear a skirt), and encourages readers to separate fear from fact, decode the damaging messages all around them, and discover a healthy personal sexuality.

Educational and interactive, What You Really Really Want includes revealing quizzes, creative exercises, and reality-based advice about sex and sexuality today. With Friedman’s informed advice to guide them, readers will build new skills for safely expressing their sexuality with lovers and explore effective ways to talk about tricky issues with family and friends—and learn how to make the world a little safer for everyone else’s sexuality along the way.

About Jaclyn Friedman

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Jessica Valenti is the founder and executive editor of Feministing.com. She also blogs for BushvChoice.com, NARAL Pro-Choice America's site. Valenti is the cofounder of The Real Hot 100, a national campaign aimed to bring attention to the work that young women activists are doing in the United States. She has an MA in women's and gender studies from Rutgers University and has worked for Legal Momentum, Planned Parenthood, the Women's Environment and Development Organization, and Ms. magazine. Jessica lives in Brooklyn, NY.
Published October 25, 2011 by Seal Press. 352 pages
Genres: Health, Fitness & Dieting, Self Help. Non-fiction

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